Why am I so unlucky in love?

There is no one-size-fits all to this question and usually there is not quick fix. However, it might be worthwhile to learn a bit about attachment styles. Attachment styles describe the ways in which we form relationships with our parents when we are young. There are a few distinct types and many of them come with their own strengths and weaknesses. The good news is, that you can work towards secure attachment, which means that you will be able to lead a more stable relationship given the right partner. Learning about these concepts can help you identify whether you, for instance, could benefit from dating multiple people at once, so you do not get too attached too soon to someone who is not a good fit. Or potentially whether you should give one person a chance because you tend to find that no one can meet your needs. Therapy can help but maybe you are not ready. There are books you could read like Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller or you could follow the Instagram channel @thesecurerelationship to dip your foot into the water. We were not taught how to have good relationships by well-trained professionals but instead by our parents who may have meant well but they might not have had the best foundation in that department. So seeking help to improve the relationships in your life is not something you need to be ashamed of. Rather if you choose to look at it, it shows strength and even therapists rely on therapists and colleagues to improve their ability to shape their professional and private relationships.